How to Spend Spring Break When Single

Day 1:

  • Wake up at 8 a.m from a hangover you thought would somehow forget about you.
  • Fall back asleep and hope the next time your body wakes up you won’t feel so sleepy.
  • Realize that perhaps, falling asleep simply won’t be possible, so you make solo-lunch date plans.
  • Accidentally fall asleep.
  • Give in to the idea of just spending your first day of break sleeping. I mean, you need rest, why the hell not.
  • Feel satisfied with your decision.
  • Your best friend calls you to “see your face and smell your hair” lol
  • You fall asleep AGAIN knowing your best friend is on her way to you.
  • Meet up. Have lunch. Talk about how shitty apartment searches are. How shitty men are. How shitty this exact moment in our lives is just plain shitty.
  • Go home.
  • Fall right back asleep.

Later on…

  • Your mom hasn’t seen you all day. Thinks you’re dead and finally creaks open your bedroom door.
  • You decided to be productive and make some tea.
  • Write in your fake blog.
  • Fall right back asleep.

 

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Since I’ve Been Gone

So much has happened since I wrote my last post in 2017. I lived 2018 in love and while I struggled to find the words to express that, it was magical. Currently, that love is no longer in my life- I’m sure it was a Twin Flame- but I hope that wherever our paths may lead us I never forget how pure and sweet it felt because it was almost everything I wanted. And I guess that’s the reason why I chose to put it to an end. We lived in the hyphen that exists between boy-friend and girl- friend. Since day one we’ve told ourselves and even others, that we were just friends. Deep down we knew it was otherwise. So once we allowed ourselves to admit this to ourselves, the things we found on the other side of the grass felt so good. Do you know how good it feels to feel a crazy bond with someone you consider a best friend? It’s intense. And while others may have shuned the very existence of this union, if I could I would do it all over again with him. Except maybe next time I’d be more clear that if you were not in this to fall in love with me, I couldn’t do it. Because I know myself. When I love…I love hard. I love unconditionally. Even when I stop fucking with the person, I still love them. It doesn’t mean my heart is a grave for broken souls, but my heart understands that these experiences and people help it become who it is- a fuse between strong, experienced, and capable of love. So for now, lord knows what will come of this heart…but, I’m sure it’ll find a way to open itself back up again as if nothing bad has happened.

It comes back

This year was so overwhelming in so many ways. For the entirety of this year I’ve been running away from love. Love that was as perfect as it was toxic, love that was naive and tasted rather sweet, love that doesn’t feel like love after a heartbreak, family love, self love. Anything that has even the smallest hint of affection alerted all my senses that it was time to go. I’d pack my nerves and my insecurities and retreated into myself. I spent the year scared and afraid. Do you know how it feels to mourn love from a person who told you from the very beginning that you would be easy to forget? Not because he didn’t care, but because his heart no longer functioned the way it should. But alas, I fell in love again. I don’t know if it was the sweetness of the air, the touch of his words on the red of my cheeks, or the realization that love can come back in its purest form. Here we are… a year later and finally ready to say that I’m ready. Not necessarily going on a hunt for love, just gonna be willing to put it out there.

Personally 

My fear of being forgotten feels so selfish, feels so foreign. I mean, does it really make sense for someone to love making love to their pillows more than the man from across the street that would love her for free?

Does it make sense to want the love and appreciation from people who wouldn’t blink an eye in her direction even if she were engulfed in emotionally temperamental fires?

How could she want commitment from others when she couldn’t keep promises to herself?

How can she explain her bouts of darkness? Where nothing made her smile. Not her food, not the cafe con Leche, not the bed she made love to.

She just wants to be seen, felt, heard, but she has some presence to give first.

I want A Love Like

I want to love in a way that transcends
5 a.m. guilt. Whirs past rambunctious nights,
and doesn’t lean on broken hearts for
resurrection from dead hopes. That
chooses to keep open the lines
between what was and what might be.

I want to love savagely and devoid of damage-
Recognizing the inability of our tied fates to
Function without them suffocating one another
To pieces; succumbing to gory sores of
Lovers incapable of stitching us up.

Cold you love me the way thirst yearns water? A
Fresh touch to the senses that do not need
To leave a sigh, a sound, a touch, a look, a scent
To prove its real.

Could you love me, knowing I’m a masochist
For the type of love you give?
Anacelia